The trend of making long conversation over various topics through text messages in bulk quantity have been found enormously done, while two individual starts “Dating” each other, and there is a typical kind of text messaging tend to be made, while they are in a relationship.
It’s normally saying sugar coated things remaining concern about what the other person is doing at that particular time of the day. In short both individual dating each other remains too much possessive about each other that they make use of text messaging for satisfying their concern. In some circumstances text messaging can seriously be harmful for your relationship, if you’re not aware how to do use them in a proper manner.
When I was single and had a girlfriend, I use to subscribe for SMS packages to get huge number of texts in few cents. And also in the time of low credit in my mobile phone I love to send free sms to Pakistan from my computer with websites available on internet. But after marriage, I’m neither subscribed for any SMS packages and nor using any internet websites to send sms, I think life changes dramatically in few years, from single to married.
But the whole content of long & sweet text messaging drastically changes, when the dating couple find themselves married to each other, as research and surveys conducted all around the world suggests. Then text messages become a totally different ball game.
The Evolution Phase:
It’s been figured out that many loves set up with a “hey.” And more often than ever that “hey” is not verbal now, but sent via a tentative text message. So if replied with another “hey” then “hey” develop into a plan to get together. And then more plans, and then some more plans, until making the ultimate plan after spending some time of being in a relationship of getting married.
How Content and pattern of text messages changes:
Here are some of the most frequently-used vocabulary in the couple’s text messages, “love,” “ok,” “dinner,” and, yes, “hey”.
Conversations changed after married from ‘hey, what’s up?’ to “ok”, “sounds good” and saying each other’s names in our text messages, never saying in “love” as much anymore.
What didn’t much change in frequency are references to two things while text messaging after marriage that are constant no matter what your relationship status is “home” and “dinner”. But for the dating couple, these terms basically emerge in different framework “Home” became a reference to the couple’s common home. “Dinner” became less a matter of “if” and more one of”when” and “how” like eager to meet.
Furthermore, according to the surveys, what additionally changes are the times of day that were crest SMS timings between the spouses. At the time of their first meeting, the bulk of the messages are used to be sent in the late evening and evening, furthermore in the middle of midnight and 3 am as per surveys. Amid the time of their engagement, however, things were to a great extent turned around, the majority of their text messages tend to be sent amid the day and, to a lesser degree, into the night. After their wedding, the messages were significantly more constrained to the daytime hours. Married couple messaged each one while at work, yet just about never at different times.
The prime surprises came across in aforementioned surveys & analysis before and after relationship status, the send regrets of the word “love” soon after relationship evolution. The possessiveness vanishes and the quantity and content of the conversation in text messaging radically changes.
Four major changes in messaging after marriage:
- Partners no longer admire each other
- Couples restrains using each others’ names
- You don’t spend whole night texting anymore
- Talk about dinner and conventional things more
After marriage text messages became more conventional, except only because all of the impulsive things were said in person, couple no longer feels the need to text saying “I love you” in the middle of the night just for the sake of suggesting how much love is there.